We all know how high school relationships typically progress: Boy meets girl, they begin to date, college rolls around and the romance fizzles out. It’s a tale as old as time.
Students are young, and commitment is scary. Who wants to do the “long-distance thing?”
For many college students, this is all too familiar. With the number of out-of-state ASU students constantly increasing, it makes sense that we try to sustain ties to significant others back home.
It’s no secret that long-distance dating has negative connotations. College is a time of self-discovery, personal enlightenment and growth. Many turn their noses up at the idea of holding on to something rather than exploring and meeting new people. For others, the struggle is worth it.
I’m no stranger to long-distance relationships. I’ll admit wholeheartedly that it isn’t easy.
As much as you try to kid yourself, conversation over Skype is just not the same level of connection as in-person conversation.
Technology is as much a burden as it is a blessing for relationships. The months spent apart aren’t made easier just because that we can communicate instantly over the distance.
Business senior Brittany Bryant has had her own share of long distance romance.
“Being an out-of-state student, it’s very easy to start a long-distance relationship. What isn’t easy is making it work,” Bryant said. “Whether it be trust issues, missing them or missing out on the traditional dating festivities, the relationship is simply not easy to endure.”
It’s true when they say that trust is number one.
If there’s even a sliver of mistrust in the relationship, dating across the country can be painful. In addition, a hectic school schedule always poses inconvenience — especially when it comes to different time zones.
“Being in college definitely makes it more difficult,” Bryant said.
Bryant explained that everything from parties to putting school first can negatively impact the bond you once shared.
Despite unfavorable odds, don’t give up on love just because of the distance between you.
I recommend a positive attitude, a lot of open communication and trust. When I was frustrated and ready to give up on long-distance dating, I came to realize it wasn’t about the distance at all. It was about the person.
That’s what it comes down to at the end of the day.
How far are you willing to go, literally and figuratively, for the person you’re with?
Answering this question honestly could either save you a lot of trouble or bring you to realize a good thing. And, as Two Door Cinema Club sings, something good can work.
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